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Forever Strong (2008)
IMDB rating: 6.60
Plot: A talented-but-troubled rugby player must play against the team his father coaches at the national championship.
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Directors: Little Ryan
Actors: Cole Gary,Faris Sean,McDonough Neal,Astin Sean,Badgley Penn,Ackerman Andrew B.,Ackerman Talon G.,Bagby Larry,Bellows Matthew Flynn,Benjamin Eliot,Bird Ivan R.,Budah Big,Chunga Jimmy,Earl Jeremy,Drama,Sport,
Please help me …i'm broken for the very first time?
i was dating this guy for 4 and a half years he was this perfect gentleman and he showed me love that i have never read about in any book or seen in any movie, i am not naive i know what i’m talking about. i was always the stronger part of the relationship coz i cared less, he had always wanted more commitment from my side, finally the last year of our relationship was full of drama coz he wanted to get married and i don’t, actually i want to but later in a couple more years like 3 or 4 years but he couldn’t wait, this started a series of actions and reactions which led to the biggest breakup 8 months ago,
5 days ago i learnt that he got engaged. since i know the details and i don’t wanna go thru them here, i don’t blame him for moving on, but i am dead… i find it hard to even look at the streets coz every inch of them holds a memory for us. and he was my true first love… yesterday i sent him a goodbye letter and he replied saying that i will be his queen forever and he’ll never love anybody ever again the same way he loved me. this killed me even more. i don’t want him back. while breaking up has killed me it was actually the right thing to do… we had too many differences to count and i was sure that this line of strong love would have been cut in half if we got married coz marriage 90% of the time kills love especially when there isn’t anything else to support this love, like having things in common or whatever.
i am shattered coz i love him and i know that nobody will love me the same way in the same time i don’t want us back, coz that would mean marriage and i know for sure, would lead to misery or divorce… not all marriages i mean this one only, given the differences i talked about.
what shall i do, how do i get over him? how do i move on? i can’t do anything so far except think and cry
thank you all for your replies they didn’t really change anything but i feel like this source of negativity that won’t stop from killing the human in me… so sharing a little bit of it thru tears or writing or even asking random strangers and getting answers i already know… is helpful in a way that i can’t explain
thank you all again and please choose who you love carefully before you break your own self
i went through something very similar to this, only we were together for 3 years. my ex is currently engaged as well, i KNOW it hurts. honestly, you just have to have faith that what is meant to be will happen. take this time to work on yourself. just keep busy and do what you love to do. work on yourself so that the next guy who deserves you will have the BEST version of you!
| Feb 08, 2010
Welcome to the party
Desert Caretaker | Feb 08, 2010
Move on.
Richard | Feb 08, 2010
you love him!
go have coffee say your good byes or go have coffee and talk see what happens
if u ever did get back together stop saying that the marriage would ruin! because it wouldnt ur attitude would ruin it!
kt | Feb 08, 2010
You did not want him anyways.
thatartistwin | Feb 08, 2010
first of all, stop only seeing the negative side of marriage.
you are not your mother father friend grandparent aunt uncle or whatever other bad influence that has ruined your image of marriage.
marriages get ruined because people let them.
if he was your dream guy then sorry but you let him slip because of your own insecurities.
the best thing to do now, is take a deep breath, die your hair paint your nails do whatever you have to do to bring some sort of difference into your life. and start again.
i know it hurts now. but it gets better with time.
see your ex as a good thing, he taught you everything you know about relationships now and be grateful you had those years with him.
go to his wedding and wish him well.
and besides weddings are the number one place to meet good looking single guys.
i’d try to start looking at the bright side of things instead of being so negative.
Robyn | Feb 08, 2010
Cry it out..Let nature take its own course..You just moved away from a loved one and YEAH! it is bound to pain…At the same time, Nature is the best healer. Take some time off , go an a vacation just by yourself, spend some time doing what you havent done in ages,pamper yourself and look for a Rejuvenated YOU!
asmita | Feb 08, 2010
Move on, or try to sort through your feelings and muster up the courage to talk to him in person and just get some things straight. I mean, if you love him, then, differences won’t change that, and I hardly think that marriage is really that big of a deal/ commitment compared to what you described. and if hes serious about that other woman he’s getting engaged to, just learn to get over it, that’s all the advice I can offer.
Candace | Feb 08, 2010
I would just do your best to open yourself back up to the dating world and try to find someone else who can make you feel special
KGB Kelevra | Feb 08, 2010
You never get over your first love, at least not all the way.
So for right now, there isn’t a lot you can do other than function. I promise, if you just keep breathing, there will be another guy who will love you and understand you (almost) as well as your first love.
(Think Bella in New Moon.)
miau. | Feb 08, 2010
You should erase his number from your phone and from other social networking sites until you can face him without crying. It wasn’t meant to be. You say "marriage 90% of the time kills love especially when there isn’t anything else to support this love" Well how are you sure his marriage with this other person will last?
I don’t think it will, (though of course I don’t know the details) Y’all have only been broken up for eight months and he is already engaged again..
I think that you really need to give yourself time to be able to stand on your own again, and let those memories fade. . They will fade over time. . . You have to give yourself time to allow them to though..
There are other people out there, you weren’t meant to be with this guy. He didn’t wait, you can’t control that. You went by what you felt comfortable and you shouldn’t feel remorse for that.
I wish you all the best, I know things will get better.
Love,
Grace
P.S. Feel free to email me if you need someone to talk to. I know how hard this can be.
eh | Feb 08, 2010
You’re already doing what you have to. You doing GREAT! Seriously. Heartbreak, separation, all of it takes time…. and, there is a process you have to go through!!! It is unavoidable. You are doing the best thing you can do, and that is crying, venting it, through writing, music, photos, and soon you will be thankful for knowing him and loving him because you learned something special about love and life. Cherish this love and then you can move on when it is on your own timing. It’s ok to hurt. It will get better. You just need to process all of it for a while, hon.
CaseMouth | Feb 08, 2010
just accept things the way they are and realise that there are some things that you cant change, although it sounds like you are being weak with time you’ll realise that that is the strongest thing you can do.
left&right | Feb 08, 2010
Cry it out, Love, and then, when you can’t cry any more, you’ll be able to slowly pick up the pieces. Sure, you’ll think about him from time to time, but your heart will heal, and you’ll find someone who can better give you what you need or that you have more in common with. Just as when anything dies, you have to give yourself time to mourn because this relationship was an important part of your life, but it’s now time to say goodbye. I’ve found that taking up a new hobby or skill helps the healing process, but, while it’s fresh, it’s alright to cry because crying gets the sad out of you. Just make sure to get out into public once a day, even just for a short walk (confront the memories, good and bad), and shower and take care of yourself while mourning, that helps loads because you’ll still feel human.
Alicia | Feb 08, 2010
All I can tell you is time goes by, slowly, but it goes. The crying eventually ends and you’re left with an empty hole in your chest that you can physically feel. Sorry if that’s not the nice, candy coated answer you want but it’s the truth. A broken heart takes time…lots of time to heal. And though you may think that time should just stop, it’ll keep going. The pain you feel now is just about the worst you can possibly feel because its not just emotional, it’s physical also. I’ve been where you are; it took me an entire 6 months to stop crying and to regain my life. Mentally, you have to set yourself straight. You have to know that your life will continue and some time in the future you will be with friends and you’ll laugh, and that one laugh makes getting through the pain worth it. I know what’s going through your mind right now and you feel alone and separated and lost, but not matter how ridiculous this sounds to you right now, it does pass. And when you are out living your life again, you’ll look back on everything and realize you got through the toughest part of your life. I truly hope you have someone in your life you can talk to about this because you can’t hold it in. On the nights where everything is so painful, try writing about it. My friends cried when they read the poems I wrote when I had those hard nights. But you will make it if you can control your mentality.
God Bless You.
AlissaN | Feb 08, 2010
try to occupy yourself with some new hobbies or take a class on something interesting and try to learn new things through random research; ie, start a garden, take a drawing class, paint. basically just try to fill your mind with something positive and try to grow as person, whatever you do don’t allow yourself to think about him too much. It will cripple your body and mind…this will be particularly difficult to avoid when trying to fall asleep =/
LT | Feb 08, 2010
Well it seems like you love him, and that he loves you.
Go have lunch as friends, and talk things out.
because it seems to me that their are things that you both left unsaid.
try to be friends. if i have learned anything from tragic breakups,
its that i would have wanted to be their friend today.
If you still think that you need to move on, you will have to talk to him.
and let him know how u feel. it really helps.
Also, all marriages don’t end up in divorce. I have been happily married for 18 years!
Marriage is just like dating. Except, you have a ring on your finger.
it also seems to me that you were scared to lose him, and u thought that if u got married u would divorce. you have to stay positive, and loyal. That’s all it takes.
i hope i have helped you. 
For more advice mail me at Sierraehil@yahoo.com
SierraHildreth | Feb 08, 2010
Aww..your story brought me to tears. I don’t know what to say to make you feel better because although I don’t know you my heart breaks for your pain. I’m not sure if my advice is helpful, but I really think you should marry him. Marriage doesn’t break the love it actually builds it into something more deeper than what you have now. 4 and a half years is a long time to be with someone and obviously your lack of similarities didn’t stop you guys from falling in love with each other and staying together that long. Go get your man! He’s your soulmate don’t let him slip away from your hands because once you do he’ll be gone forever. Good luck!
love751 | Feb 08, 2010
Hit the gym, eat right and sleep soundly.
I know you don’t understand it and downthumb this suggestion, but you need to stop thinking and start doing.
Satan Claws | Feb 08, 2010
I really do not understand you. You stated that you had the perfect man in your life, but you was not ready for marriage, so he move on, then you write him a goodbye letter, and he tells you that you are his queen, & that he will never ever love anybody else again, right? Then why did h get engage to someone else, and why do you feel that it will be cut in half if that love is truly strong? you do not want him back, but then again, you feel that if you will never be love again, you should really look at yourself and stop being so selfish, you had love, and you let it go, because you was not ready, maybe you was not, so let him get on with his life and give that love to someone else. In the meantime, take time for you, and learn and love yourself, focus on positive things and stop th negative thoughts, move on and accept the changes in life.
Selenia | Feb 08, 2010
Ok. Intellectually you know that everything is as it should be. Now you have to accept that.\
Years ago I had a dear friend who was divorced. To her the most important thing in life was family and she always mourned the death of her marriage, although it had not been a "good" marriage from day one.
She dated a guy for quite sometime who I believe wanted to marry her. However she couldn’t "see" herself with this particular man. She cared about him, but not romantically. After sometime she suggested he ask out a neighbor of ours. Eventually he did. After about a year, he married the neighbor.
Although she knew she didn’t have feeling for this man beyond friendship, she still mourned not having put more into that relationship herself. It could have have been her wedding. Not another woman’s.
You need to keep reminding yourself that you made the right choice. That you will always care about this guy, but you should move on.
When these feeling start to trap you, read an engrossing book. Exercise. Call a friend. Do anything but dwell on "What Could Have Been."
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